Motherhood is full of self-sacrifice. The sleepless nights, the temper tantrums, the constant presence of bodily fluids… It all makes the idea of “self-care” seem like a distant fairy tale. But self-care is as essential for moms as coffee and chocolate. That doesn’t mean scheduling in spa days and mani/pedis whenever you get a spare hour (and let’s be honest, when is there ever a spare hour?). It can be as simple as remembering to drink enough water!
It isn’t always easy to justify putting yourself first when you have a family to think about. But really, your family is exactly the reason you need to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Self-care is about keeping the woman behind the mom healthy, so that she can be the best mom possible. So here are a few easy tasks that you can do regularly to keep yourself in good shape:
1. Do one thing every day that’s for you
This one is simultaneously so easy and so hard. Every day when you get up, decide on one thing you’re going to do during that day for yourself. Just one thing! It could be as simple as taking half an hour to journal at some point. But the important part is that you do it, whatever it is, entirely for yourself and your own sense of fulfillment.
2. Keep up-to-date with your own healthcare
You make sure your kids have regular checkups and teeth cleanings, but what about your own healthcare? When’s the last time you had a routine checkup of your own? If it’s been longer than a year, you should make an appointment soon to get checked out. Keep yourself healthy!
3. Connect with others outside your family
Okay, so this one actually might be the hardest one. When you have children, especially more than one, it can be particularly difficult to find time to meet up with people you aren’t related to. Plus, when your friends have kids too, it’s almost impossible to match up your schedules for some much-needed girl time. But try to get out and spend time with people your own age at least once or twice a month!
4. Take five minutes to meditate with no distractions
I bet you can already guess the most important part of this one: “with no distractions”! If you’ve just put your little one down for a nap and can spare five whole minutes to meditate without any interruptions, do it. Take deep breaths, clear your mind, and find peace – if only for a moment.
5. Maintain a passion that’s not parenting
Is it writing a blog? Is it volunteering at an animal shelter? Is it basket weaving? Whatever your passion is, nurse it, even if it’s only once a week! Passions outside of parenting will help you find value in yourself as a human, not as a mom – which makes being a mom all the more rewarding.
While this is not a comprehensive list of self-care methods for mothers by any means, it is a start. If you’re looking at this list in amazement because you haven’t been taking care of yourself at all, then you know it’s time for a change. If you have your own mom self-care routine, share it with us! And remember to sign up for our email list for more tips and content like this.